Mrs Sandra seeks advice on her marital situation

HER STORY : 

Hie Mr Kaine hope you doing well. My situation has some how made me to believe that  it's spiritual related or should I call it curses I'm confused .I've been married twice and currently in my third relationship. The husband I'm with is pulling off stunts that I cannot even understand. Can u imagine we stay together but he's never spent a single cent on basics,I'm talking things like food, sanitary expenses or even bothered helping paying rent but still claims to be the man of the house. When I question him about it he always has a lame excuse, "talks  of the so called business plans and investments", but never have I ever heard any progress or outcomes in his endeavors. Above all I've caught him cheating on me making it the third time this year. When I confront him he claims I'm also promiscuous making it an unending debate. I feel drained by this marriage please give me advice 

Comments & advice :

Thank you for having the courage for sharing such your situation with us

1]Since it's your third marriage I would like you to reflect on your current and past relationships, identify lessons learned from the mistakes you or your partners made  this helps growth opportunities as you get to understand the struggles in martial life and ways to overcome them 

2]Learn to fight for your marriage never give up easily. One thing you notice about nowaday societies is, once a woman marries more than twice men tend to take advantage as they no longer see your value as a woman so they take you for granted 

3]I know it may sound contradicting to what I've said above, but a man should take care of his family. So by looking into your story your husband is not doing great at his job so I suggest you leave him

4]I have come to believe that if you are a woman whose failed in a marriage but manages to take care of herself and kids with little or no help from a man then, I suppose you must focus on helping your self and try being a single parent even though it's hard and troublesome. Its better than worrying about being with a spouse who you not certain if he loves you. 

5] Marriage is all about trust, hence honesty being a key factor in it. If you and your spouse can't trust each other then we can't call that marriage.

*ln conclusion i would like to live you with these words, "Marriage is house, honesty is the foundation" hence you cannot build a house without a foundation. 

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