Fellow brother is now out of options in this toxic relationship

 

Hie I'm 36 years old and  married to a woman with three kids. The sad part is i couldn't have children of my own that's why I never considered the disadvantages of marrying a woman with kids but now I've come too realize things I never expected to experience in my life.

Marrying this woman was the best thing that ever happened to me, in my situation the feeling of having three kids call you father was like a blessing, but now with the ways things have turned out I've come to believe this is the end of my fairy tale life. 

It all begins with the issue of  the coming of the kids fathers, yes  I mean fathers. Can you believe this woman has three kids with three different men. The last time I checked she had only notified me of two men, one who denied the child and the other she had divorced. As a man who never looks into matters deeply I never bothered asking the reason she divorced but  her ex husband made it clear to me, that the reason they divorced is because she cheated and was impregnated by another man.

Since I never took what I had learnt  from her ex seriously, as time passed I started noticing signs of indecency. At first I thought it was me being paranoid or insecure until I got to see her promiscuous acts and I concluded with the fact that I might be misunderstanding things so I kept quiet until she finally showed me who she really was. 

One afternoon I dismissed early from work to my disappointment I came home only to discover her with a teenage boy on our very bed and all she had to say was, "I'm sorry, it's only that you always busy". Since then we've never had a peaceful relationship and now I don't know what to do since she's unemployed at the moment.

@kaine

{thank you for sharing your story} 

Critics :

Firstly I would like to discourage the  men who are in a similar situation. Rule number 1{never marry a woman who has  divorced more than once or  has kids more than two with different fathers. One thing I would like to drill into those thick skulls of yours is that  when a woman has the first , second kid then the third with  different men it means the first two are regretable actions, but the 3rd means it's now a habit. Hence she adopted a very bad habit which means she's a ticking time bomb since she's found marriage and building a family something less important 

Rule number 2} Never lie to yourself and say love is blind, it's not true it's just a statement to hide ourselves from the true reality of things. We choose not to see to avoid feeling the bitterness of fake relationships, then call it true love or love being blind . I suppose we should call it stupidity because that's another level of being dull

Advice :

Walk away from this relationship it's toxic, I understand you value for the kids or wife's well being but remember these aren't your kids you did mention their fathers coming  into the picture. Hence I will tell you this no man wishes to see their kids suffer so they will come around. 

More so seeing your wife does not respect you or your marriage, she even sees you as less of a man since she chooses to bed young boys. I would suggest you go find a better partner one who values and respects you, one who loves you despite your flaws that way you will find solace 

Lastly if you worrying about having kids I think you should try adoption, they are more kids who need love and care from you men like you